In the strongest relationships, love and support is given frequently without being asked. The happiest couples actively seek to find out how their partner feels the most supported and loved (through their individual Love Language) and strives to give them exactly that.
If you are not sure of your partner’s Love Language, then ask! Ask them what things make them feel the most loved? Then strive to do that at least once a week (or more often if you are able).
Here are 6 things that the happiest couples do:
- Check in with each other. Whether you text your partner with a “Hello” or a “How did it go” or an “I’m thinking of you” — it helps to maintain a feeling of being connected and a vital part of each other’s lives.
- Give compliments. It doesn’t have to be over the top — even small things like “You are such a great cook” or “You have such a great mind, I love the way you analyze things” are really helpful.
- Surprise each other with a card or gift. Giving your partner a card or gift out of the blue with no special occasion attached can go a long way in making someone feel loved. It will make him or her feel special and it’s a great reminder to you as well of all you have to be grateful for on a day to day basis.
- Act generously and dont keep score. Generosity is something freely given with nothing expected in return. When a relationship feels secure, it is easy to want to offer more than your fair share of tasks or thoughtful gestures to show your love for your partner.
- Speak openly about thoughts and feelings. If one or both partners have a hard time communicating, a relationship can feel very lonely. The happiest couples may not communicate constantly on a deep level, but they do it frequently enough to feel connected.
- Get in the habit of saying ‘Thank you’ and ‘I love you’. Its amazing to watch your partner beam when you regularly notice and point out their contributions to your life. People want to be reminded of their value to you.
Just remember that all relationships are a work in progress and always be willing to ask what your partner wants and needs — and you should always feel free to openly share what you would like from your partner. You aren’t a mind reader, so you can’t expect your partner to be one either. However, rest assured, that with a little bit of thoughtful action, the satisfaction level of your relationship can increase dramatically — it all starts with a little detective work and being generous towards your partner.